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We had a joint Dover-East IFP session for TEDx with the theme of Peace by Piece. I have to say that it was a very beautiful and interesting experience. One of the speakers that I felt moved by the most is Joy. It’s the first time that I’ve heard that she used to be a refugee. I think it’s amazing and it kind of just trying to remind us again as to how you will never know what the person has been through just by the smile on her face. You might hate someone just by the fact of what you heard and saw, and that’s just so shallow of you. A girl you called a slut, she’s a virgin. A man you said he’s weak because he cries, her mother died. A student who slept in class and you called “lazy”, he got 9 siblings to take care of at night. Sometimes, what you see is just a small part of the truth, hence try to sit and talk to them first, about their lives, about who they are, getting to know them first, go deeper before forming a judgement IN your head. Because it can work the opposite, too, you never know that sometimes, the greatest sadness can also be found behind the greatest smile.
Another speaker that I really look forward to is Jean. The fact that I kind of know her personally, make things more interesting. And I really want to see how she’s going to make the connection between the cryptography to peace. And the fact that in the talk, she brings up the story of Alan Turing and the Enigma machine. Because it’s one of the saddest human real-life stories I’ve ever heard.
(Out of topic: I mean Alan Turing is a socially-awkward but a genius man. He spent years trying to break the Enigma machine and when he finally did it, he was told to keep everything a secret. One of the real-life heroes, Christopher has helped save millions of lives from the war. But during the life, while he lives, no one knew he’s the hero. No one knew he’s the one who has helped the country. All they ever did to Alan Turing, is treating him with awkwardness and disgust by the fact that he’s gay. The fact that he prefers to be with men is greater than the fact that he’s helped the nation. Which in the end, force him to commit suicide by biting to a cyanide poisoning apple. And only later on, then the fact that he’s the one to decode the unbreakable Enigma Machine surface in the society. And only after that, then the queen gives him a posthumous royal pardon for being convicted of having an affair with the same sex in 1952. What’s the use of that? The man lives his lives with the society frowning upon him. Humans… How do we know if there are in other cases like this that the government hasn’t let us know? And it’s just stupid that we lost one of the greatest minds in the world, the father of computer science, to the rights of one’s sexuality. )
Anyway, Jean reminds me that age doesn’t really matter. She’s really brave to go up there and talk about what’s she passionate about. And it just makes me reflect on myself whether I have been brave enough every day to just try and make changes in the smallest possible way in the world. I think most people have identified the difference they want to change, and we’ve discussed it every day. But sometimes I feel that it leads us to nowhere. People tend to complain a lot about things but do nothing about it. Jean makes me realise that “Don’t complain about things you’re not willing to change.”
During one of our mentor session, I and my partner, Sanah, went to a Grade 5 classroom and have a mini session introducing IFP with them. It was to bring in the idea of positive and negative peace, identifying the conflicts and different ways to solve the conflicts. First of all, I myself really did enjoy it. I like their enthusiasms, their willingness to participate in discussions and raise up their hands to voice in their opinions. It makes me feel that we actually have done a good job. So, this is not necessarily an informative and hopefully interesting session to them, but to us as well. Hence, it’s a 2-way beneficial session.
(Out of topic: No offence, but what I had in mind already for some times is that these small kids tend to be more passionate about different activities than teenagers. They are at the age to want and try new things. For example, if 2 same activities are done during lunchtime, I’ve observed that there will be more people during middle school lunchtime than the high school one. There might be several factors to this. I don’t know. I just want to put it out there.)
Anyway, I can see that they are very eager and they do know how to approach these conflicts. We are not there to tell them anything, they know how to approach it themselves. They also realize that in the real situation itself, it would be not as easy, but it’s worth to keep in mind. We are just there to remind them that they could this or that that they’ve discussed among themselves.
Talking about my skills in the session itself, I think my strength is that I can control the crowd really well. I spoke in a clear manner, sometimes crack a joke, but also serious when needed, I know my audience well, and how to make the most out of it. And one of my weakness in this session is that at one time when some group is speaking, the rest of the group in the far back corner might not really be listening. However, I can’t just cut in and move everyone to the front and make sure that they listen to each other because I also realize that we don’t have much time left. Hence, I just left it to go with the flow for the last 1 or 2 minutes. I think I should have calculated in my head, in the beginning, and bring everyone to discuss this together at the start.
This is me and my friends discussing on what activity or service that stands out the most for the past few seasons and reflect on how and why does this have an impact on us.
Thank you and have a nice day!
Looking back from where I first started IFP in the beginning of the year, there are quite some moments that I like to look back and reflect. Without a doubt, the joint training at Dover really stood out for me. It’s the first time that we are exposed to work with completely new people from Dover, and it really inspired me with the fact that everyone was really opened and friendly. It really does help me to improve my collaboration skills. Because in UWC east, we mostly work with people who we tend to know about them a bit already, however, when we are put to work with the students from Dover, I think it really brings me out from my comfort zone. It allowed me to share my ideas with others as well as listening to theirs as well. That also brings me to the next session: Active Listening. After that session, I think a good peace builder also needs to be a good and active listener, too. Remember the time when we are divided into group Jay and Kay, where 1 group is meant to go to the other country and helps giving advice but instead a chaotic debate occurred. This happens because we didn’t really listen to the other partner to whether what exactly is the problem they have and what they need help with. We just assume that something is the problem hence come up with a solution that is not going to help them. This makes us reflect again on our local services in our school as well as our abroad conference soon. We should be a good listener first, LISTEN to their problem and ask for help and then discuss together the solution.
Now, it makes me think about the team that we are going to be in to lead the conference. This is really important in my opinion. A team needs to feel comfortable with each other enough to bring forth an idea or ideas for improvement but not to the point where one is completely ignorant of your responsibilities and tasks in the group. After the personality test, I realized that there sometimes should be a balance in the different personalities. When you have 2 very strong personalities with the same skills in the same group, it might be very hard to get things done to one unable to compromise to another. Hence, it’s better to have a cooperative with different people with their own strong points to compliment each other.
The one last session that I remembered was the Social Media session, I remembered that I had so many good discussions with different people on that day, and it was very nice. To be honest, there are times that my enthusiasm has lost out a bit during the sessions, however once in a while, just to sit down with some other people who share rather similar or different opinions with you and discuss some issues really help brighten and sharpen my inspirations and enthusiasm a bit.
My other IFP reflection: