A letter to the Shaker Newspaper

I don’t think people fully understand the ramifications of this and how it could not only affect the babies life but the mother’s life too. When Bebe Chow was desperate and couldn’t afford to keep her child, she decided to give her child up in hopes that May-Ling would have a better childhood. Although she didn’t go through the proper ways of giving a baby up for adoption she did what she thought was best for her child. Once you leave your child, in the cold, not knowing if your child will even survive the night. You have given up your child for life. You can not return to having primary custody of a child that you left without help, warmth or anything that a child needs to provide you need to prove that you are a fit mother for the rest of your life because that one moment defines it. At the same time, I don’t believe that she shouldn’t have a relationship with her daughter. She is the biological mother, there should be at least a chance for her to bond with her daughter but you cannot put a baby with a mother that abandoned her when there are safer options for said child. Linda and her husband have lost children before and taking a real one right from their arms are not only cruel, it’s inhumane teasing them with the false hope of having a family just for someone to take back the baby just because they birthed them. I am a firm believer in letting Bebe see her daughter but sometimes your family is not always your biological family and that has to be taken into consideration otherwise what’s the whole point of adopting children.